Meeting ourselves with tenderness and kindness

It’s not that far a stretch to consider that if we can be tough on ourselves, we can also be soft. Imagine if more of us treated ourselves with tenderness and kindness--- stopped objectifying ourselves, our bodies, and others, we would have more time to pursue our dreams, live our passions, and honor the calling of our hearts.  



By Mayra Porrata | comments: mayra@solarapublishing.com ©2026 Solara Publishing, LLC
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