Men's pain

Culture tells men that pain, fear, and anger can only be tempered through control and power-over tactics. And so they learn to externalize and weaponize their confusion to prove and protect their masculinity. 

Self-awareness and honoring grief are radical forms of love for brave and wise men. This is one of the most powerful and valuable lessons my dad taught me. 

 





By Mayra Porrata | comments: mayra@solarapublishing.com 
©2026 Solara Publishing, LLC
Location: United States

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