How to stop arguing with insanity

This post is inspired by a dear friend who many years ago commented: "you can't argue with insanity."  -- something I still remind myself of from time to time. 

Culturally-speaking, insanity is common anytime someone operates from a divided or polarized band of awareness which is what happens anytime we leave our center, our soul-self.  So, how do we stop our common addiction to engage in the ping-pong of changing someone's mind?

#1. First and foremost, know that you cannot change anyone's mind. Minds are changed from the inside-- from the person themselves, not from us informing, telling, teaching, instructing, yelling, shaming, shouting, undermining, or any of the garden variety tactics people employ to keep you in their ping-pong game.

#2. Stop playing ping-pong. Put your paddle down and walk away from the table.

#3. If the urge persists, notice yourself returning to the realm of division and polarization. Notice yourself with non-judgement, tenderly, with your whole heart. (See Polarized cultural bands)

When leaders behave in divisive/polarizing ways; ways that attack and undermine people, communities, and life on our planet, all of us bear the responsibility to notice what happens inside our own bodies and hearts. All of us co-create our culture-- we can create safe and harmonic spaces for others only when we're coming from this space ourselves. 




 


By Mayra Porrata | comments: mayra@solarapublishing.com ©2026 Solara Publishing, LLC
Location: United States

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